People like you, who are interested in spirituality, are often very sensitive. They are empathic and want to connect with other people. This is a wonderful thing to be, but...
How about boundaries?
Sensitive people have often got a problem with setting healthy boundaries. This is bad news. The good news is: Everybody can learn to set boundaries.
How can you set boundaries?
There are 3 different kinds of boundaries: Physical, emotional and mental boundaries. You need to have all of them!
Physical boundaries
Different people are allowed to come close to you physically in a different way. And who is allowed to determine how close they can come? You, and nobody else.
You know who is allowed to hug you and you know from which person you want to have a bigger distance. You decide, and you are allowed to take a step back from people who come too close. If they come too close repeatedly and don´t understand your signs: Tell them.
"Can you please take a step back from me? I feel uncomfortable this way. Thank you." If they ignore this, you shouldn´t have contact with them at all.
Emotional boundaries
This is tricky because, in the end, other people are not responsible for your feelings. So where do you have to set emotional boundaries? If other people throw their emotions on you and it makes you feel uncomfortable. Venting feels good sometimes, but if it doesn´t feel good for you to listen, you don´t have to.
Change the tone to a practical approach: "OK, so here you are with your anger, what are you gonna do to change the situation?" If they don´t stop venting, end the conversation. It´s not your job to be at the receiving end of an emotional throw-up.
Mental boundaries
Here you want to set boundaries when people are very problem oriented. They want to tell you everything that is going wrong and how bad everything is in the world.
Sometimes it´s OK to talk about problems you have no solution yet. But you will feel if it´s just to get your attention.
"What do you want to do about it?" If they don´t come up with solutions and ideas then it´s better to end the conversation. Because it´s not a conversation, it´s the other person getting your energy and your attention. And in the end, nobody is better off.
What about the difficult cases?
You know, there are these family members and colleagues that ignore your boundaries on a regular basis. What can you do?
Crystals can help you in these situations. You can draw two circles on a piece of paper that touch each other in one point (important: only one point!). Then you write your name in one circle and the name of the other person in the other circle.
And then, on the point where the circles touch each other, you put a crystal to help you strengthen your boundaries. There are no rules, take one that appeals to you. Every crystal can help you in a different way, so you can´t go wrong here.
Place the paper somewhere where you can see it daily and then wait what happens!